I just love how opening up one link can lead to discovering something that can truly change how you think and live your life. DESIRE a word that conjures up powerful images and can take us on a journey of self discovery. I recently followed links and blog sites via Pinterest which led me to such a site.
www.daniellelaporte.com/thedesiremap/ The concept of DESIRE MAPPING is very interesting and it got me thinking about how I could use it as an aid for personal styling. Most of us do have a desired image that we want to project to the world. It is how we construct our desired image that I am interested in discussing here. Danielle La Porte talks about beginning with our desires and working from there to set goals which will enable us to realise these desires.
In following this process myself I discovered that I desire to project an image of a confident, creative, healthy, well travelled, broad minded individual, who is compassionate about global issues and an intelligent interesting person.
To attain this image my goal setting might look something like this:
To use my own creative resources in my personal style.
To adopt a healthy daily regime which includes healthy eating and regular exercise
To make opportunities to travel, collect pieces adopt ideas from other places around the world and incorporate into my style.
To keep an open mind when it comes to new trends and develop a style which evolves by incorporating trends which suit me and my style.
To individualise my style by adding my own take on a look or creating a unique look which suits me and my lifestyle.
To keep in mind global issues when shopping, travelling, recycling and do the best I can to contribute to a better world.
To maintain an active interest in the world around me and how others navigate and project themselves to the world.
To continue learning new and better ways of being, doing and understanding.
Your Desires & desired image may be very different from mine. You may desire to focus on areas in your life which calls for a utilitarian style with a minimal focus on wardrobe and minimal effort in your outward appearance. The beautiful actress and past face of Lancome Issabella Rosellini developed her personal style with just such a desire in mind reportedly raiding her man’s wardrobe and embracing a simple paired down masculine style so she didn’t have to spent time thinking about what to wear each day.
There is no doubt that our desired image is a reflection of our desired lifestyle. Advertising has used this concept to offer us what we want although most of the time what we buy into does not give us what we actually desire and we are left wanting and disappointed.
If your desire is for a sporty style it is perhaps an indication that you desire to be more sporty. Maybe it is time to join a gym or add a sporting activity to your life. We all remember the impact Olivia Newton Johns “Lets Get Physical” had on the way we looked while exercising and the impact it had on the fashion industry. In fact fashion has used our desire to feel like we are doing more exercise by giving us athletic looking leisure wear so that whether we are doing the hard yards or not we look like we are on the outside. A very clever move by the fashion industry although if our desired image follows our true desires we are left with only the empty image unless we do the activity.
Perhaps your desire is for a more feminine seductive style which may indicate that romance is a very important part of your life or that you would like to have more romance in your life.
Maybe you desire to be taken more seriously in a male dominated corporate world hence a classic power suit style may be a desirable image.
You may find that your style has not changed much since you were in your 20′s perhaps your desire being to not grow older? This may indicate you need to do some inside work which will help you to accept that aging is a process which we cannot avoid forever and one which can bring great depth and joy to your life. I have to admit I am constantly checking my style to gage whether it is age appropriate simply because I forget I am now in my mid fifty’s. That doesn’t mean that I consciously dress older I think there are many styles which can be adopted regardless of age provided it is flattering and works for you.
I have always loved oriental style which may be due to a desire to spend time in that part of the world or a desire to study the cultures of the orient. It may be due to my desire to appear well travelled or broad minded. I like to think its because I was an oriental princess in a former life. I know, very funny and highly unlikely but its a lovely fantasy.
The key here is so simple, decide what it is you desire and act accordingly when planning your goals and your desired image should follow. Desire is our fuel for life and as we age we can lose track of what is truly important to us as we struggle to stay in step with our fast moving world. Sometimes we can feel like we have lost our oars in a sea of unrewarding experiences and unattainable goals.
Most Madam D’s have multi faceted lifestyles which comes from having been on the planet for a reasonable amount of time. We are mothers, wives, grandmothers, sisters, doctors, nurses, lawyers, carers, teachers, home-makers, artists, etc. We may desire to project an efficient corporate image at work and prefer a more feminine style after hours or a relaxed sporty carefree look to balance out a busy and demanding work life. We may have a job with a uniform by day and desire to project a glamorous image after hours. We DO know better than anyone what we desire in our lives. We all have limitations and we don’t all look sexy in a man’s suit and the chic sporty look can be more difficult to achieve as we age but that shouldn’t stop us from continuing to set goals based on our desires. Taking the time to work out what it is that you truly desire will help you to live the life you want and in turn you will automatically project an AUTHENTIC IMAGE of yourself to the world.